Post by Nicole on Feb 16, 2006 9:42:17 GMT -5
LM <@@@@@@@@@> wrote:
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Comment = I met this girl I like a lot. Before we started dating she said, she has never and will never get down on a women. At the time, it didn't matter because we were only friends. Now that we ended up in a 'relation', we had sex once, but she didn't get down. When I ask her today, if she would ever get down. She said she's not willing to do that because it makes her uncomfortable and she's never done it with the people she's loved and been with. I told her that I am not sure if I want to invest into this relation. She said, 'ok'. I know I'm not changing people, and don't want to, but why does she rather lose what we have instead of working things out? I guess I have my response, she's really not interested. She just wants to receive and not give. Guess I'll look elsewhere, another women will make me happy. Please tell me why she rather give it all up? I'm not willing to sacrifice my desires and needs either. Why are people like her??
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Dear LM
I am sorry to hear about your recent troubles with women. I have long since given up on women for alot of reasons. None of which are the same as yours but they all boil down to one thing. Women are selfish.
Women who are not selfish rarely end up with anyone good because they can't find someone in their area, or they are poor at chosing people. How do I know this? I know because I have been "out" for 9 years. I've gone down the "I love you" path, the "I'll buy you dinner and hope you like me back" path. Now I am going down the "I'm not going to be with anyone" path (with respect to women). People are pretty unreliable. Male or female. You can not count on any one person being the one that will "save" you. I would suggest you get comfortable with yourself. Start setting boundries. Stop forgetting the boundries you set up previously because some nice woman comes along and you are alone. Be with someone you like. If you like them you are more inclined to do "anything" for them. Even to the point of sexuality. Also, if she won't do something for you that is like that then .... maybe she doesn't like you very much. If I were in love with someone, I would do anything for them (mostly). I don't think intimacy in a lesbian relationship going "both" ways is to much to ask. She knew what a lesbian relationship required when she got into it and the fact is that if she is not willing to give then that means she's just not into you. Sorry to say it like that. Its the cold hard truth.
If you need anything at all you can write to me. However I am not sure if I am lesbian.
Sincerily,
Fawne~Mine