Post by Nicole on Jan 30, 2009 9:54:18 GMT -5
Dear Mum,
I have not been around on the weekend, not only because of the fact that I am working, but also because of the fact that when I come to the house I feel like I do not get any choices.
I am aware and thankful that you have tried your very best to make me feel comfortable but to be honest with you I don't. I think this is primarily because most of the time no one asks me what my opinion on things are. They just assume that it is okay with me.
This is not entirely your fault and I know that.
My problem stems from the several things. Being one that I ask Douglas to do things with me and he doesn't. He also does do everything or mostly everything with you that you ask him to and says yes most of the time without even asking me.
I have having some difficulty with this because I like it when people ask me what I think about it.
For example... I specifically asked Douglas if I could pluck the goose this weekend. I wanted to do that because I wanted to keep the feathers from it. Then said I wanted to cook it.
So no I don't really think it was fair that he and you made a decision about the goose and none asked me about it. Nor did anyone consider what I wanted done with it.
I came home last night to hearing 'my mother and i decided'.
I were late to work to get that goose and i made alot of effort to stop to get it. I was really actually happy to get the goose and I was so proud to have it.
So the last thing I wanted to hear is that the goose had been plucked and I had no say in what was being done to it or anything else like that.
I know you think it is only a goose and that maybe I am sensitive, but this is not the only time that my voice has gone unheard.
I don't think things are working out very well in the UK and the primary reason for that is because no one listens to me.
Even when I voice what I think or what I want no one listens to anything I say. Nor do I get asked anything, and people make decisions without me on things that I think I should have a say in.
No its not just this goose. It is also the fact that I had to get a ride back from sheffield and convince the bus driver to take me all the way back on the holiday even though the busses stopped running early on new years.
I spent new years by myself (something I have never done). I was here and the boats lines froze up. I fixed our hot water heater and spent several days by myself. I wasn't even considered at all and didn't even recieve an email from Douglas until I got very upset.
No one cared about me then and to be honest with you I thought that it was very bad that no one did.
So again, perhaps it is only a goose, but it isn't fair that people make decisions without me and don't even consider me or ask me. I was very excited about it, but now I just don't want to have anything to do with it.
I have not been around on the weekend, not only because of the fact that I am working, but also because of the fact that when I come to the house I feel like I do not get any choices.
I am aware and thankful that you have tried your very best to make me feel comfortable but to be honest with you I don't. I think this is primarily because most of the time no one asks me what my opinion on things are. They just assume that it is okay with me.
This is not entirely your fault and I know that.
My problem stems from the several things. Being one that I ask Douglas to do things with me and he doesn't. He also does do everything or mostly everything with you that you ask him to and says yes most of the time without even asking me.
I have having some difficulty with this because I like it when people ask me what I think about it.
For example... I specifically asked Douglas if I could pluck the goose this weekend. I wanted to do that because I wanted to keep the feathers from it. Then said I wanted to cook it.
So no I don't really think it was fair that he and you made a decision about the goose and none asked me about it. Nor did anyone consider what I wanted done with it.
I came home last night to hearing 'my mother and i decided'.
I were late to work to get that goose and i made alot of effort to stop to get it. I was really actually happy to get the goose and I was so proud to have it.
So the last thing I wanted to hear is that the goose had been plucked and I had no say in what was being done to it or anything else like that.
I know you think it is only a goose and that maybe I am sensitive, but this is not the only time that my voice has gone unheard.
I don't think things are working out very well in the UK and the primary reason for that is because no one listens to me.
Even when I voice what I think or what I want no one listens to anything I say. Nor do I get asked anything, and people make decisions without me on things that I think I should have a say in.
No its not just this goose. It is also the fact that I had to get a ride back from sheffield and convince the bus driver to take me all the way back on the holiday even though the busses stopped running early on new years.
I spent new years by myself (something I have never done). I was here and the boats lines froze up. I fixed our hot water heater and spent several days by myself. I wasn't even considered at all and didn't even recieve an email from Douglas until I got very upset.
No one cared about me then and to be honest with you I thought that it was very bad that no one did.
So again, perhaps it is only a goose, but it isn't fair that people make decisions without me and don't even consider me or ask me. I was very excited about it, but now I just don't want to have anything to do with it.