Post by Nicole on May 14, 2005 11:49:24 GMT -5
We went to Mcdonalds play land so the kids could play and we could talk.
Once they were playing for a good oh 10 minutes I said "I know you think that
I was going to leave you and take the kids, file for child support and divorce you,
but those are not my intentions. I just can't be here right now and I am trying to
put the kids first before anything. I don't believe in divorce, because I don't think
it is right to put kids through the court systems and don't want child support.
So I am asking you to trust me with the children, but they do have to go where I
go."
He did agree to those terms. Meaning that if I leave they come with me. I am unsure
what the differance between a legal divorce is and a legal seperation, but would
most likely want the latter of them at this point or in the future. Divorces can be very
messy. I am unsure how you will take any of this or what you will think when you read
this, but (not asking you to). I don't see the point in going through a messy divorce when
there isn't someone else interested in marriage. Doesn't mean it can't happen. Just means
I am not keen on taking the children and running. Which is basically what I would have
to do if I wanted custody of my kids. In this state is the way that the mother gets custody.
It has to do with who has physical custody. So I am asking that he trust me where ever I
do go with my children, and in return I will not file for a divorce or child support. However if
he does not live up to the agreement I will do both. Regards to the fact that he makes a
hell of alot of money and the state will take it from his check.
I don't really think it is about the money, but it could become about the money if he gets nasty
with me. He also knows that the money would be enough for me to live on for the next 15 years. I told him that I am not a person who spreads her legs in order to file for child support and get the money to live off of. I would like to do this the right way and that would be to distance myself from him, and allow him access to the children as well as myself.
I still have more thinking to do on this matter. I think that I should continue to put money away, as much as I can for an apartment. Then move out, taking my children with me. If I leave quietly I am certain he will not throw divorce papers at me, and or try to take the children away from me because it will be a favor to him that I didn't file for support.
I would like your input on this matter.
Love Nicole
Once they were playing for a good oh 10 minutes I said "I know you think that
I was going to leave you and take the kids, file for child support and divorce you,
but those are not my intentions. I just can't be here right now and I am trying to
put the kids first before anything. I don't believe in divorce, because I don't think
it is right to put kids through the court systems and don't want child support.
So I am asking you to trust me with the children, but they do have to go where I
go."
He did agree to those terms. Meaning that if I leave they come with me. I am unsure
what the differance between a legal divorce is and a legal seperation, but would
most likely want the latter of them at this point or in the future. Divorces can be very
messy. I am unsure how you will take any of this or what you will think when you read
this, but (not asking you to). I don't see the point in going through a messy divorce when
there isn't someone else interested in marriage. Doesn't mean it can't happen. Just means
I am not keen on taking the children and running. Which is basically what I would have
to do if I wanted custody of my kids. In this state is the way that the mother gets custody.
It has to do with who has physical custody. So I am asking that he trust me where ever I
do go with my children, and in return I will not file for a divorce or child support. However if
he does not live up to the agreement I will do both. Regards to the fact that he makes a
hell of alot of money and the state will take it from his check.
I don't really think it is about the money, but it could become about the money if he gets nasty
with me. He also knows that the money would be enough for me to live on for the next 15 years. I told him that I am not a person who spreads her legs in order to file for child support and get the money to live off of. I would like to do this the right way and that would be to distance myself from him, and allow him access to the children as well as myself.
I still have more thinking to do on this matter. I think that I should continue to put money away, as much as I can for an apartment. Then move out, taking my children with me. If I leave quietly I am certain he will not throw divorce papers at me, and or try to take the children away from me because it will be a favor to him that I didn't file for support.
I would like your input on this matter.
Love Nicole